65: Getting Over the “I Got It” Syndrome with Elayne Fluker

Elayne highlights how she got into her work by attending a Momentum workshop that completely transformed her life. By posting positive messages on her social media pages, she was able to reach women entrepreneurs. She encourages women to seek support, and not only when in crisis. While on the entrepreneurial journey, people get so fixated on the goal that they forget to enjoy the moment’s joy. She recommends that it is important to talk to people about the journey and take care of oneself. It is important to seek help and not only when we are in crisis. Have a list of people, resources, or organizations that you might reach out to for help or people to put your product in front of the right audience.

About Our Guest

Elayne Fluker is a media entrepreneur, and host of the Support is Sexy podcast for women entrepreneurs and the CEO of Chic Rebellion Media. Chic Rebellion Media is a firm that is built on the notion of women supporting women, particularly along the entrepreneurial journey. She has interviewed more than 500 women entrepreneurs from different cultures, backgrounds, and experiences on her podcast. She has a book, “Get Over ‘I Got It’: How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support, and Remember That Having It All Doesn’t Mean Doing It All Alone.”

Insights from the Podcast

— Unlearn that support does not necessarily mean that someone is in crisis. Also, support should be an ongoing process. We should not wait until we are in crisis to seek support.

— Understand how important it is to give yourself time to fall back and reflect. Assess the season you are in and what is set to bloom without forcing it or making it happen. You will discover that some things that are not as important as you thought they were.

— Discover how H.E.L.P must be used in the art of asking for support

H- Having it all does not mean doing it all alone
E- Ask Empowering questions
L- Let go of the how and leave the question
P- Believe in the Possibilities

— Insights on how to have an empowered ask through the 5Rs

1- Be Ready when you show up
2- Reason: why is it important to you or the other person?
3- Receipts: what have you done? What are you doing? What is your value?
4- Why are you making the Request: be very direct because the other party does not know what you want, and it will not magically show up
5- Show Reciprocity: be ready to give and receive

Quotes from the show:

“We need to stop associating support with a crisis. This is a thought and behavior that we need to unlearn” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast.

“Do not miss out on the joy of this moment. Remember why you started and the intention. It is easy for us to get distracted, just fall back and remember why you started your journey and take care of yourself ” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast.

“If you knew how, you would have done it already. It will happen when we leave the questions that we do not have answers to” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast.

“All the movements in the world were based on belief possibilities. All the things that are magical in this country all started with a belief” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast.

“An exceptional life is a life of low probability. If we get caught in what’s probable, we will not believe in the possibilities” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast.

“To adopt a possibility mindset, one needs to think of what’s possible and not what’s probable. This makes one open to the magic that is out there and one that is available. Believing in possibilities opens one up” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast.

“Success does not mean that we have to toil or be drained. Imagine the impact of success that has to be resourced and filed with ease and grace. It does not have to involve being away from family” –Chantal Pierrat Emerging Women Podcast.

“Success is what happens when you close the gap between reality and possibility” –Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast.

“What would this look like if it were easy? For some of us, it would involve getting some help!”–Elayne Fluker, Emerging Women Podcast.

Resources Mentioned

Momentum workshop
Dr. Srini Pillay: “An Exceptional Life is a Life of Low Probability.”
Tim Ferriss podcast

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