Unleash Your Feminine Charisma

When it comes to charisma, we’ve been told, “You’re either born with it or you’re not.” 

In truth, we are all born with charisma. 

Unfortunately, throughout our lives, we’ve been taught to suppress our emotions, our life force, and our feminine power. We’ve been told, both consciously and unconsciously, “Don’t be too big. Don’t be too much. Don’t be too emotional.” Society asks us to hide our natural radiance in order to “fit in.” So, we put on masks that suppress our innate, feminine power. 

That charisma, that power, still lives inside each of us, waiting to be tapped and unleashed. 

How can we reconnect to and unleash our feminine charisma when it counts?

Root in Your Soul’s Purpose

When we say “yes” to speaking in public, we tend to be connected to our Soul’s Purpose (even if that’s a subconscious connection.) Then, in between that first “yes” and the moment of truth, our soul suckers™ try to take over. Our soul suckers (aka inner critics) come from lack. They see everything through a “not enough” lens. When they’re in charge of how we show up, they “disaster trip:” envisioning the worst possible outcome, and then attempt to avoid that disaster at all costs. They chatter incessantly in our inner ear, saying things like: “Don’t say the wrong thing!” Don’t show too much emotion.” “You’d better outrun everyone’s boredom – talk fast!” 

If, instead, we connect to our Soul’s Purpose, and allow our Soul to drive how we show up everything changes. We can then focus on our audience and what our Soul wants for them. Imagine focusing on inspiring, awakening or giving your audience hope, and then watching that happen right before your eyes.

Breathe Life into the Experience

One of the main ways we suppress our emotions is by restricting our breathing. Picture a baby. When babies cry, even before they speak, they take full, expansive, nourishing breaths. They then use that breath to support the sound of their voices. A baby’s cry can be heard on the other side of the house. Even without words, we feel what they’re trying to communicate. 

As we grow up and are taught to suppress, hide, and fit in, we develop habits of, as Mary Oliver said, “Breathing just a little and calling it a life.” We suppress our breath and then strain our muscles in order to be heard. (No wonder many of us lose our voices if asked to speak for any significant length of time.)

Breathing life into the experience means nourishing our bodies with breath and then using that breath to nourish and support the sound of our voices. We’re capable of a vocal resonance beyond most of our wildest dreams. 

Breathing life into the experience also means fully embracing both the words and the silences between them. In music, the space is as important as the notes. It’s the white space that reveals the image in visual art. In speaking, it’s the silence that reveals the meaning. It’s during the silence that our listeners have the chance to digest what we’re saying – intellectually and, more importantly, emotionally.

(The silence is also a convenient time to take that nourishing breath!)

Invite People

With every breath, every word, every silence, invite people to come with you as you fulfill your Soul’s purpose. While, if you’re speaking in public, you may be doing the majority of the talking, there is a conversation happening. Listen to your audience’s non-verbal half of the conversation. Energize the space by wrapping the crowd up in your energetic arms. Savor every image that you say as if you were savoring a piece of delicious dark chocolate, a bite of tasty cheese, or a glass of fine wine. 

At this moment in time, we desperately need more women who are ready to stand in their power and speak their truth. We need more feminine charisma in the world. Each of us has that lost charisma inside, just waiting to be re-born. 

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About Lauri Smith:

Lauri Smith, author of Your Voice Matters: A Guide to Speaking Soulfully When It Counts, is an inspirational speaker, educator and coach. Lauri’s passion is helping change-makers stand in their power and speak their truth – from the bedroom, to the Boardroom to the TED Talk Stage. She helps each and every client she works with to unleash their innate, unique charisma, so that they can make their mark in the world. She helps leaders do more than communicate, she helps them move people.

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ORGANIC INDIA: Empowering Women through Opportunity

At ORGANIC INDIA, we know first-hand that when you empower women, you empower community.  As an integral part of our company operations, we invest in women through employment opportunities, fair wages, access to healthcare, job skills training, leadership development, and educational programming.

Why India?

While gender inequality is prevalent around the world, India is among the worst countries for gender equality (World Economic Forum, 2015). According to a 2015 report from the McKinsey Global Institute, India also stands to gain the most with a projected 16% growth in GDP from increased gender equality.

Empowering Women

We take great pride in providing opportunity to our farmers—many from marginalized groups including women, widows, the elderly and the illiterate—enabling self-sufficiency and developing skills to pass on to future generations.

We have seen first-hand that empowered women significantly strengthen families, farming operations and entire communities, providing an overall increase in quality of life.  


Our efforts to empower women include:

Fair Pay: ORGANIC INDIA pays female farmers premium market wages, equal to their male counterparts. This is a rare opportunity in India, where the gender pay gap is very high. The World Economic Forum reports that Indian women are paid only one-third of what a man in the same position is paid.

Our relationships with farmers are built on mutual respect, dignity and interconnectedness. Fair wages honor this relationship by enabling female farmers to financially support themselves and their families. In addition, we pay farmers whether their crops fail or flourish, providing financial security regardless of temporarily unfortunate conditions.

Job Skills Training Programs: ORGANIC INDIA provides job skills training programs to empower women to achieve gainful employment. Female farmers are educated in organic and regenerative agricultural practices, but we also provide non-agricultural job skills trainings as well. For example, ORGANIC INDIA provides a 6-week stitchery training course to empower women to seek employment opportunities outside of farming.

Leadership on Farms: Because ORGANIC INDIA’s female farmers are educated in agricultural operations, we see them becoming empowered to assume leadership roles and even land ownership on their small family farms. As a result, women are independently leading operations on farms, a role traditionally reserved for men in India.

Employing Widows: In India, widows are largely treated as “untouchables,” forced into a life of begging and destitution. This stigmatized group is ostracized from Indian society, rejected by their families, refused employment and even shelter, due to a superstitious societal belief that they are cursed.

ORGANIC INDIA employs many widows, particularly on our Sweet Rose Farm in Brindavan. Here, you can find women and widows laughing and singing, handpicking rose petals in the fields. It is truly a beautiful sight, which is why we describe our Tulsi Sweet Rose Tea as “stress relieving and magical.” The magic is in the taste of sweet opportunity. Witness the empowered women of our Sweet Rose farm here:

Employment Opportunities

ORGANIC INDIA provides as much employment opportunity as possible to females in India. For example, our 200-person processing plant in Chittoor, Andhra Pradesh operates with 95% female employees. We aim to provide employment opportunities for women both on and off the farm.

Celebrating Women

It is our duty and honor to take action as a company to support and celebrate the achievement of the mothers, daughters and soul-sisters who nurture bravely, build wisely and create compassionately in this beautiful world we live in. When you empower women, it’s not one person or one family that you affect — it’s the entire village. Every day we honor our women farmers, whose work and wisdom create sustainable land, strong families and healthy communities.

Learn more at: www.ORGANICINDIA.com