I always imagined what it would be like to have a daughter: pretty clothes, soft, fluffy things, pink ballet slippers. I imagined sharing all my womanly secrets with her and creating the most superwoman human being that ever lived. But instead I was graced with two boys, and instead, the house shakes; thumping, banging, physical madness – boys. I embraced this reality wholeheartedly – I can’t imagine my life without these little guys – but not without some small regret that I would never be able to relish in the feminine with a daughter.
But recently, on the day that Maya Angelou confirmed that she would speak at Emerging Women Live, I witnessed my sons greet my husband by rushing to the door shouting “Daddy, Maya Angelou said yes for Emerging Women! She is going to speak!” I know they’re a little young to fully appreciate what an honor that is, but they do know she’s an amazing woman and that I revere her. It dawned on me that perhaps I am growing supermen human beings, filled with all of my womanly secrets – and perhaps this could be even more impactful.
I often have the urge to thank my mother-in-law for raising my husband to be an integrated, sensitive, compassionate, “tuned in” yet masculine man. Growing up, I was taught that vulnerability, emotions, and being too accommodating were weaknesses. While I am grateful for the linear, pro-active power that I leaned on my whole life to “make shit happen,” I never learned the true power of receptivity, intuition and empathy until recently.
We all have the capacity, whether we are parents or not, to be stewards of these powerful feminine energies, and it is our time, as mothers to the world, to grow a society that uses those strengths to create a balanced and brilliant future for all.
Founder, Emerging Women
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