Totality and the Feminine Filter

This weekend I drove up with Jay (my husband) and our boys from Boulder to Wyoming to watch the solar eclipse in TOTALITY. 600,000 people were predicted to descend on the tiny town of Casper, WY for this incredible event and I was questioning whether seeing 92% of an eclipse may have been the better way to go – watching the cosmos from our snuggy hometown of Boulder.

But totality was calling. Scientific American says that seeing a partial eclipse is interesting, but witnessing a total eclipse is “mind-blowing.” So with gas tanks strapped to the car (tales of running out of gas were rampant in the pre-eclipse travel warnings!) we soon found ourselves in a big field with campers from all over the world who also heard the call.

And so as the moon was edging its way across the sun I got this big download:

In most Eastern traditions, the sun is considered masculine and the moon is feminine. Our world is an expression of those two polarities – masculine and feminine.

This particular sun is in Leo. Leo is all about self expression, which we love, but it can be narcissistic and very ego-focused if unchecked. Does this sound familiar? We have in our culture right now a very strong feeling of overblown Leo energy.

With this solar eclipse, the feminine moon moved to put a filter on that masculine energy. The moon is about Other, about nurturing, giving, and providing a safe haven. The moon is in service – it’s the mama energy, it’s the energy of Cancer.

But here’s the thing: the moon is ALSO in Leo right now. So the moon is also giving us the self-expression juice. The moon’s feminine energy will help us filter down that “me-focus” while still giving us the Leo’s shot of courage and heart. The feminine will be speaking, loud and proud, but the lens will be through service to others, to the whole.

“May our self-expression, may our full lifetime, our full voice, our full expression as human beings, be in service to others.” That is what I read in this eclipse.

For that brief moment of totality – 2 minutes and 26 seconds – I could imagine 100% balance of masculine and feminine. It is the most wonderful thing to see. TOTALITY.

It doesn’t happen very often. And we pretty much have to chase it. And everything that happens before and after is that dance between masculine and feminine.

But once we’ve experienced totality, a true balanced world, even for the briefest of moment, we have more resilience for the ebbs and flows.

It’s not about being perfect, but rather knowing that a balance exists, visibly at times, on a very high level. Keeping that in our consciousness in a gentle way is comforting. It’s the balance of the universe, it feels like there’s a system much bigger than my thinking that has it all figured out.

With that thought, I say march on brothers and sisters, and let us shine as brightly as we can, but always through the filter of service.

Thoughts? Too woo? In the spirit of collective expression, let me know in the comments. And to dig deeper into this idea of feminine and masculine energies, join us at Emerging Women Live 2017 in Denver, CO. Register here to save your seat, or sign up for the FREE live stream here.

Juicy Bites: Women Heroines in Literature and Film

This week we find out:

  • Literature’s most beloved women heroines
  • Who is the first female Saudi Arabian filmmaker
  • What are 3 communication mistakes that you can easily avoid
  • The real meaning of self-compassion and how it differs from self-esteem
  • Messy or tidy — which is better for creativity?


At the end of this post, we encourage you to join us for a conversation. This week’s Juicy Bites question for you, dear emerging women, is:

1. Well-Read Women: Gorgeous Watercolor Portraits of Literature’s Most Beloved Heroines via Brain Pickings


The New-York-based painter and fashion illustrator Samantha Hahn is celebrating women in fiction. This book is a fascinating collection of expressive watercolor depictions paired with a memorable quote, of such literary icons as Jane Eyre, Anna Karenina, Holly Golightly, and Clarissa Dalloway.

JANE EYRE 'Jane Eyre' by Charlotte Brontë
JANE EYRE ‘Jane Eyre’ by Charlotte Brontë

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2. Meet Haifaa Al Mansour, the first female Saudi Arabian filmmaker via Interview Magazine


This is quite impressive. Al Mansour’s first feature film called Wadjda, is the first movie to be filmed entirely in Saudi Arabia, and Al Mansour is the first female Saudi Arabian filmmaker.

“There are opportunities for women now, and you have to be able to stand up for yourself, for what you believe in. And the culture is opening up and there are pockets, windows for women. But a lot of women are shy to take them because the culture will not accept women working in a mixed environment; they don’t want women to travel alone and study abroad. It may compromise women getting married quickly. It is very much like America in the 1940s, but it is more [conservative]; women have to be completely covered.” — Haifaa Al Mansour

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3. Three communication mistakes with big impact via Tara Sophia Mohr-Wise Living


Tara shares with us a super easy way we can play big this year. Learn how to avoid 3 common communication mistakes, and how to build your voice to be  strong, determined,  non-apologetic.

“Our words are our opportunity. That opportunity is bigger than ever before because women are more literate than ever before and have access to technology — from laptops to email — that amplify our communication.”

*Tara Sophia Mohr will be a featured presenter at the 2013 Emerging Women Live Conference, October 10th-13th in Boulder, CO.

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4. Kristin Neff — The Real Meaning of Self-Compassion via Grace & Fire Podcast


This episode’s guest is the inspiring Kristin Neff. Kristin is a professor of human development and culture at the University of Texas, Austin, and she has practiced Buddhist Meditation since 1997. In addition to authoring numerous academic articles on self-compassion, she has written a new book titled “Self-Compassion,” released by William Morrow in 2011.

In this episode, Kristin Neff and the host of Grace & Fire, Chantal Pierrat spoke about:


  • The real meaning of Self-Compassion and how it differs from Self-Esteem,
  • The masculine and feminine aspects of mindfulness and self-compassion,
  • The researched results of self-compassion and what the findings mean for leaders, and women leaders in particular,
  • How self-compassion takes us from recognition, to action, and the power creating a practice of self care and love,
  • And finally, Kristen offers sage advice for those women on the precipice of their own emergence.


Kristin Neff will be a featured presenter at the 2013 Emerging Women Live Conference, October 10th-13th in Boulder, CO.

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5. It’s Not ‘Mess.’ It’s Creativity. via New York Times


Olimpia Zagnoli
Olimpia Zagnoli

MESSY or tidy — which is better?

Historically, the evidence has favored the tidy spaces. But then the obvious question surfaces: “If messiness is so bad, why do so many people tolerate, and even embrace, it?”

Kathleen D. Vohs, from Carlson School of Management, University of Minnesota, with two of her colleagues, conducted an interesting experiment and came to the conclusion that physical order produces healthy choices, generosity, and conventionality, whereas disorder produces creativity.
Here are a few of their predictions that led to their experiment:

“Since tidiness has been associated with upholding societal standards, we predicted that just being around tidiness would elicit a desire for convention. We also predicted the opposite: that being around messiness would lead people away from convention, in favor of new directions.” — Kathleen D. Vohs

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